Find Yourself In Love (Online Course)

A gentle, practical online course to help you understand how you are in relationships (and how you’d like to be) so you can find or create the loving, peaceful, exciting relationship you deserve.

Ever found yourself in the same relationship twice?

Different person, different name, but somehow the same feelings, the same frustrations, the same ending? Or perhaps you’re not in a relationship at all, and can’t quite work out why love hasn’t found you yet, despite your best efforts?

The truth is, most of us were never taught how to be in relationships. We learned by watching the adults around us: absorbing their patterns, their conflicts, their silences and their love… And then we carried all of that quietly into our own romantic lives, without ever quite realising it.

This course can help you change that.

A healthy and happy relationship starts with understanding yourself…

Over 9 warm, thoughtful lessons, we’ll explore the patterns and beliefs you’ve been carrying, understand where they came from and begin to replace the ones that are holding you back with ones that set you free.

We’ll look honestly at what has and hasn’t worked in your past, get clear on what you truly want in your future, and make real, meaningful space for love to find its way in.

This isn’t about fixing what’s wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you. It’s about understanding yourself more deeply so that you can make better choices, show up more fully… And love (and be loved) more freely.

This course will help you to:

• Understand how your earliest observations of love shaped your expectations of relationships
• Identify the patterns and themes running through your romantic history
• Recognise the limiting expectations that may be quietly sabotaging your love life
• Get honest about what is (and isn’t) working in your current or past relationships
• Uncover and release the fears and ambivalence that may be holding you back
• Develop a clear, hopeful vision of the relationship you want and deserve
• Make genuine space in your life (and your heart) for love to arrive
• Learn to love yourself the way you want to be loved by another

What’s covered in the 9 lessons:

Lesson 1: Observation

We start at the very beginning — with what you saw as a child. The relationships around you as you grew up became an unconscious template for your own. Here, we bring that template gently into the light.

Lesson 2: Experience

From your earliest relationships with parents and caregivers to your most recent love affair, your experience of being loved (or not) has shaped how you show up in relationships today. This lesson helps you make sense of that story.

Lesson 3: Expectations

What we expect, we often find. This lesson helps you identify the limiting expectations you’ve been carrying — and begin to trade them in for liberating ones.

Lesson 4: The Wheel of Love

A beautiful, visual tool to help you see at a glance what has worked in your relationships, what hasn’t, and what patterns have been quietly repeating themselves.

Lesson 5: Ambivalence

Mixed feelings about love are more common — and more powerful — than most of us realise. This lesson helps you uncover the hidden fears and hesitations that may be keeping love at arm’s length.

Lesson 6: Liberating Expectations

Armed with awareness, we now do the work of replacing fear with faith, and ambivalence with commitment — preparing the ground for love to truly take root.

Lesson 7: Have a Dream

You can’t find your way to the right relationship without knowing what it looks like. This lesson helps you build a clear, joyful vision of the love you’re heading towards.

Lesson 8: Making Space

Love needs room to arrive. This lesson is about creating real, practical space in your life — in your diary, your home and your heart — so that when the right person comes along, you’re ready.

Lesson 9: Be The Love

The final lesson is about becoming, right now, the love you want to feel. Because the happier and more whole you are within yourself, the more naturally and effortlessly love will find you.

How it works

Find Yourself In Love is made up of 9 lessons, all accessible through the website on any device, at any time. You’ll receive instant access and a login email as soon as you enrol.

Each lesson includes a reflection or practical task designed to take the ideas off the page and into your real life. Work through them entirely at your own pace — there’s no rush, and no pressure.

You’re also warmly encouraged to email me with any questions, insights or revelations along the way.

One more thing

I created this course because I have sat with so many people! Warm, wonderful, worthy people, who couldn’t understand why love kept eluding them, or why it kept hurting them, or why it never quite looked the way they hoped it would.

What I have learned, over many years of working with people on their relationships, is that the answers are almost always already inside us. We just need the right questions, the right tools, and a safe and gentle space in which to find them.

My hope is that this course gives you all three… And that by the end of it, you feel not only clearer and more hopeful about love, but a little more in love with yourself too.

Hello there, I'm Judy.

I'm a Master Life Coach, facilitator, trainer and published author from sunny South Africa. I'm passionate about helping people make things go right in their world of work and in their lives - by rediscovering and building on their resilience, resourcefulness and creativity.

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